So many times in the world of dating single men and women end up settling for whatever they can get. They'd rather be with 'somebody' than be 'alone.' When we lower our personal standards often times we get into trouble. We've all heard it many times before but a relationship with the wrong person can be much more painful than just being alone. It starts with putting up with bad behaviors followed by lack of respect and ultimately the relationship feels like a total drag.

It's actually only in those quiet moments by ourselves that we can get clear on where we're at and where we need to go with our dating lives. Being true to ourselves with what we can and will expect from relationship is the only way that we can build ourselves up. Along with building ourselves up comes a raising of personal standards which in turn creates more satisfying dating experiences.

We've also got to be 'ok' with enjoying our own company because if we don't who will? It's in these times of self reflection that we start to see who we really are and what we feel we really deserve. By getting some clarity around all that we can start to reveal our true desires in another. Just in the act of getting clear there is a shift in energy and a more positive vibe in our attitude and demeanor which in turn attracts a more positive response from potential mates.

It's really all about us in that we determine what we will put up with, who we will choose to spend our time with and who we will allow into our lives long-term.

Our goal is to develop ourselves fully and really get clear on the kind of partner that will complement our lives. We need to start figuring out what makes us happy, what we enjoy doing and where we want to spend our time. We've got to be full ourselves before we can give of ourselves. By knowing ourselves and growing ourselves we are preparing ourselves for that right person to come along and add joy to our lives.

Relationships, good relationships, are where two people are really in it for each other. Caring for each other, pleasing each other, nurturing each other, spending time with each other, looking out for each other and being genuinely interested in each other. Those are the things make up good relationships. Setting our standards higher and finding the enjoyment in the giving and receiving of affection is what we should all long for. We've got to step it up and in return we can expect our suitors to do the same.

And once we do go higher we start to get a different perspective on things and realize how low we were before and how we don't want to go back there. It's our personal responsibility to always go onward and upward to better relationships, increased satisfaction and ultimate relationship bliss.

Copyright 2006 Danielle Seadia

Danielle Seadia is a National Voiceover Talent and Dating Expert having fixed up thousands on singles nationwide on the "Hotline" radio dating show. Her voice is heard on radio and television commercials nationwide with clients like PerfectMatch.com, QVC, Cellular One, RaceTrac, and Shadow Tans to name just a few. She maintains a private coaching practice and leads a singles group weekly. In 2005 Danielle was nominated as one most eligible bachelorette's on the East Coast. Single by choice but open to meeting eligible bachelors, Danielle uses her real life dating experiences and the insights along the way to impart savvy dating advice. Her website is www.danielleseadia.com.

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